My battle with anxiety kicked into high gear after my husband died unexpectedly at the age of 41.  He died in his sleep from an undetected heart issue.  I was in New York on a girl's trip and my 6-year-old found him in the morning.  I have struggled with the guilt for 10 years.  

About a year after my husband passed, I sought help.  I am so glad I did!  I have come a long way since then.  I have learned so much.

In no particular order:

1.  Forgive yourself and others.

2. Exercise often.  Even if you get outside for a walk.  Get up and move every single day.

3.  Yoga help - A LOT!  Find a good yoga teacher or a good online program.  I follow Ashton August (I make no commission on referring her - I just love her and her style of teaching!)

4. Seek help.  Find a good therapist.  

5.  Find a close friend who understands and who is a good listener.

6. Don't be afraid to love again.  I found a really good guy who loves my daughter like his own.  I am so very happy!

7. Don't be afraid to trust again.

8. Take time to heal.  It is YOUR time.  No one can tell you how much time it takes to heal after losing a spouse.  It is an individual thing.

9. Read all you can on the grief process and healing.

10. If you are a Christian, pray.  Pray often.  He is there and listening.

Here is a little more on what I have learned in 10 years about anxiety:

Anxiety can be a challenging and overwhelming experience but remember that you don't have to face it alone. Seeking support is essential in managing anxiety effectively. Here are some reasons why support is crucial for individuals dealing with anxiety:

Validation and Understanding: Connecting with others who have experienced or are experiencing anxiety can provide validation and a sense of understanding. It helps you realize that you're not alone in your struggles and that what you're feeling is valid.

Coping Strategies and Tools: Support can provide you with valuable coping strategies and tools to manage anxiety. Others who have dealt with similar challenges may have insights and techniques that can be helpful in reducing anxiety symptoms and improving overall well-being.

Emotional Support: Anxiety can be emotionally draining, and having a support system can offer comfort and empathy. Supportive individuals can provide a listening ear, offer encouragement, and remind you that you're not alone.

Practical Assistance: Sometimes, anxiety can interfere with daily tasks and responsibilities. Having support from friends, family, or professionals can offer practical assistance when you need it, whether it's help with errands, appointments, or other commitments.

Professional Guidance: Seeking support from mental health professionals, such as therapists or counselors, can provide expert guidance and evidence-based interventions. They can help you understand your anxiety better, develop personalized coping strategies, and provide a safe space for you to express your concerns.

Remember, everyone's experience with anxiety is unique, so finding the right type and level of support that works for you is important. Don't hesitate to reach out to mental health professionals, support groups, friends, or family members who can provide the understanding and assistance you need.

Much love always,

Shelly